Showing posts with label family annihilation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family annihilation. Show all posts
Sunday, March 6, 2011
The Anomaly of a Mom Who Murders Her Teenagers

Frequent Quarterbacker Jackie sent along a link to an article from the Daily Beast about the murders of Calyx and Beau Schenecker. You probably heard about the murders when they happened at the end of January. The two teenagers -- aged 16 and 13 respectively -- were shot to death in their Tampa, Florida home. The alleged killer, who reportedly has confessed, is their mother, who attempted suicide in the same incident.
Certainly this incident is horrible and worthy of discussion in a blog about traumatic current events. But what catches my eye about the article that Jackie sent along is the headline:
Did This Mom Kill Her Kids?The article explains at some length that it is incredibly rare for mothers to kill their teenage children. Children murdered by their mothers are almost always infants or toddlers. Teenagers murdered by a parent are generally murdered by their fathers.
The article is a decent one, exploring the unanswerable question of why this mom did what she appears to have done. Their was clearly mounting discord in the family, the mom and daughter were seeking counseling, the mother may have been using drugs and was probably depressed, and the dad had recently deployed to the Middle East with the Army. And it points out that we will most likely never know what snapped in Beau and Calyx's mother to make her kill her own children.
But the headline says something else entirely. Did this mom kill her kids? It sure seems like it. In fact, there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of question as to whether she did, only as to why. So why doesn't the headline match the article.
The somewhat boring explanation is that whoever wrote the headline was doing so quickly, skimmed the article, saw the part about this being almost unheard of, and misunderstood the thrust of the article. But I think it was a little more than that.
On the whole, people are very bad at evaluating statistics and probabilities
The fact that something is unheard of -- even if it has literally never happened ever before -- does not by itself mean that it hasn't happened this time. As the saying goes, there's a first time for everything. What it means is, all other things being equal, it is unlikely to be true.
But all other things aren't equal. This mom confessed. The evidence points solely to her. The fact that she did it is notable because it's unusual. The fact that it's unusual, unfortunately, does not mean it's not true.

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Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Fayetteville, NC: Murder is Murder

A well-respected real estate developer in Fayetteville, North Carolina shot and killed his wife and two teenage children on Monday before completing the act of suicide. As frequent Quarterbackers know, family annihilation murders, as this type of incident is called, are rare but news-grabbing. They follow a particular pattern in which the perpetrator is almost always male, and they may be the culmination of escalating domestic violence, or not.
I first read about this incident on CNN.com, before it was confirmed as a murder/suicide. The article quoted a news release from the Chief of Police which read, in part,
At this time, there is no reason to suspect foul play; however the investigation remains in its early stages.I had to go back and read this several times because I couldn't believe it. "There is no reason to suspect foul play." How could he possibly say that?
I would like to chalk this up to a slip of the tongue. What he meant, obviously, was that there was no reason to believe there was a suspect at large, and that makes sense. He meant that no one else was in danger. Fine. Except that this wasn't a slip of the tongue. It was a written press release. This leaves just two possibilities: that it was an incredibly sloppy job of writing the release coupled with poor or no editing (and this is why you should take your time when you are communicating in a crisis), or that he meant what he said. What if he really meant that a husband and father killing his wife and children does not count as foul play?
You may say that I'm overreacting, and maybe I am. All I have is this one snippet from the release. I don't know this man, nor has he been asked what he meant as far as I know. But I also think that little things like this add up, so that the death of one person seems less tragic, less violent, less important than another. It wasn't really a murder, it was, well something else. And that kind of rhetoric makes it that much easier to look the other way when a family is in trouble.
The New Oxford American Dictionary defines foul play as
unlawful or dishonest behavior, in particular violent crime resulting in another's death.This wasn't "just" a domestic dispute. It was a crime. The fact that the perpetrator is dead does not change that. There was foul play, and this wife and these children deserve the same respect and memorial they would get if they were killed by strangers. Murder is murder.
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