Showing posts with label Hugo Alfredo Tale-Yax. Show all posts
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Monday, April 26, 2010
Death in NYC: Can Empathy and Condemnation Go Hand in Hand?
Several years ago, a teacher in my school district, at a different school, was disciplined for using duct tape to fasten a student to a chair. The day after this hit the newspaper, the staff room was abuzz with teachers saying, "What was she thinking?" "I can't imagine what she was thinking." "Does anyone know what she was thinking?" There was a lull in the conversation, and one of the most senior teachers said, "Let's be honest. Is there anyone who actually doesn't know what she was thinking?"
I am reminded of this episode today because an item has hit the news regarding a homeless man who was killed in New York City a week ago. Hugo Alfredo Tale-Yax, 31, was stabbed as he intervened in an early morning altercation between a man and a woman on a Queens sidewalk-- some reports say it was a mugging. In a scene captured by a surveillance camera, Tale-Yax then walked down the sidewalk, collapsed, and lay there for about an hour as numerous pedestrians walked by. One took a picture of him. Another shook him and lifted him up far enough to see a pool of blood. By the time authorities arrived, he was dead.
What were those passersby thinking? You may find yourself reminded of the storied case of Kitty Genovese
It turns out, however, that the Genovese case wasn't all that simple. In their recent book SuperFreakonomics
I think we can all agree that, in an ideal world, anyone who knew he was injured should have tried to help him and/or called 911. So, why didn't they? Did Mr. Tale-Yax have the misfortune to be injured in the one place in America where everyone doesn't agree on this? Probably not.
When we say that people should have called, we are doing so with much better information than people had at the time. We know now that Mr. Tale-Yax was dying, and that failure to call an ambulance probably cost him his life. The people walking by, on the other hand, were not met with that certainty. They had to weigh out the probability that this man needed help against the chances that he didn't, and also the chances that if they tried to help him they would wind up regretting it.
At least some of the pedestrians presumed that Mr. Tale-Yax was asleep. The sight of a homeless man sleeping -- or passed out -- on the sidewalk in Queens is not that unusual. It is certainly far more common than someone bleeding to death on a sidewalk in Queens. These people weighed the probabilities and went with the one that was far more likely.
Other passersby, though, clearly knew he was hurt. The person who shook him and picked him up certainly did. The person who took his picture appears to talk with a companion about the situation before they leave. We all assume that we, in the same situation, would have called 911. Why didn't they?
First of all, somebody did. There were a total of three 911 calls. The first, which appears to have come during the initial altercation, reported a woman screaming but gave the wrong address. The second reported a man lying in the street and also gave the wrong address. The third brought emergency personnel, who found Mr. Tale-Yax dead.
Let's just say, however, for the sake of argument, that there was at least one person who walked by, saw Tale-Yax, realized he was injured, and didn't call. Should they be condemned for it? Or can we muster some empathy for them? I think the answer may be both.
Someone failed to help a dying person. That can't be OK in our society. At the same time, I can imagine 100 reasons why they didn't, from being a wanted criminal or an undocumented immigrant themselves, to simply failing to grasp what they were seeing, to convincing themselves that if he was really hurt someone would have already called. Think about it -- have you ever seen a car on the side of the road and not called for help? You probably have -- I know I have -- because you figured someone else had already called.
Empathizing with the passersby does not require condoning what they did. Understanding and accepting are not the same thing. We know that the people who walked by Hugo Alfredo Tale-Yax should have helped him. Chances are, they know it too. And really, if we think about it, is there anyone who doesn't know what they were thinking?
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